Why is it that you get a manual for everything these days but when it comes to raising kids, we are on our own. If simple parenting tips are what you are looking for then here are 17 Bright Ideas for Improving Your Parenting Powers, thanks to Judith-Rose Max, founder of Happy Parenting:
You are the best judge – We are given so many ideas and suggestions as parents and personally, if something does not feel right, as the parent, you are best avoiding it. Each of us has a common sense radar and I recommend you rely on this at all times.
Be alert, children can become adept at hiding things – Parents need to be one-step ahead at all times. There is no opportunity to say, “I don’t want to know about the new social media site, drug, hangout, or latest trend.” If we are unaware, we are not able to protect our children and keep them safe when they need it most.
Talk to your children – Spend time with the beautiful people in your family. When they are younger, it can be easier as their needs are more basic, but as they get older, they need to know that you think they are amazing and that you want spend time with them. (Even if they say they do not want to be with you).
Say I love you – Children need to hear this most when they deserve it least. They know when they are giving you a hard time, sometimes their emotions take over and they just can’t help themselves. This is the time to say, “I love you”.
Stand firm – If you have a strong belief, value and moral, teach it to them and show them why you believe things should be done in a certain way. Guide them to be the best they can be.
Say yes – Our standard response is usually to say “No”, sometimes without even thinking first just because we can. Really consider saying Yes first and then say no if you still feel you should.
Really listen to what your child is saying, watch all the cues – Sometimes it is not what your child says but how they are behaving, if something feels off, it probably is. Spend the time to find out more.
Don’t problem solve – Listen to what your child has to say and ask what they think, often they just want to be heard, saying “I hear what you are telling me. I understand how you are feeling,” is all that they need. Once they have shared what is happening for them, then support them in finding a solution.
Get your kids active – A healthy lifestyle is the best way of keeping stress at a minimum, health at its peak and is the cheapest form of therapy ever created.
Be who you want your children to be – Children learn what they see, not what they are told so live your life the way you want your children to grow up.
Encourage your children to achieve their own dreams and goals – Your children have their own lives to live and you have yours. Live and pursue your own dreams and find it within yourself, (even if you disagree), to encourage them and guide them towards achieving the goals that they have set for themselves.
Ask for help if you need it – There is no shame in admitting you need assistance. Sometimes things get too hard and if we show our children that it is okay to ask for help, when they need it, they will do the same.
There is no such thing as perfection – We all make mistakes and the best we can do is learn from those mistakes and do it differently the next time around. Teaching our children this is a great life lesson.
Be kind to yourself as a parent – Parenting is a hard job with many challenges along the way, surround yourself with others who are kind to you and believe in you and your abilities.
Listen to others and form your own opinion – As a parent the advice begins from the very first moment you know that you are becoming a parent (in whichever way your child comes to you). Some advice will be suitable and other advice will not, go with your gut.
Take time out for yourself – If you are not looking after you as the parent, you might find yourself overtired, overworked or just genuinely frustrated with things, because life happens. Find the time to care for, nourish and love yourself as much as you care for, nourish and love your children.
Give yourself a pat on the back – Parenting can be the most rewarding and fabulous role we ever play and it comes with challenges we could never have anticipate, enjoy the ride, have fun with your kids and say “Well done” you deserve to be acknowledged.
- Judith-Rose Max is the founder of Happy Parenting and a mother of 3 fantastic girls. Despite having a natural instinct for parenting, there were times when she really struggled and found herself becoming the parent she vowed she’d never be. “I searched for the right parenting resources but it was hard to access everything I wanted and needed in one place so I decided to go directly to the parenting experts and bring them to others”
- I gather the incredible knowledge of the best and most current parenting experts to bring you ideas and solutions when you need them most. Our experts share their best tips and strategies with lots of easy to implement action plans on how to make parenting fun, easy and as enjoyable as possible
- Happy Parenting empowers mums and dads with easily accessible solutions to everyday parenting challenges. You can find parenting experts, resources and Happy Parents, Happy Kids at www.happyparenting.com.au
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