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3 Tips for Raising Responsible AdultsPosted November 25, 2019 by Sue Prichard
We all want our children to grow up happily and healthily. We want them to enjoy their childhoods and safely navigate those teen and young adult years. We have been there ourselves, we remember what it was like and we also know how many mistakes we made. We have to allow our children to make mistakes and find their own voices and paths, but we can also guide them in their endeavours. Which is why today we want to share with you 3 tips for raising responsible adults.
Role model it
We know that our children learn how to behave in the world from us, so we really need to role model those behaviours that we want to see them growing up with.
If you want your child to be well organised at school and punctual, you are going to need to be too. If you want your child to eat healthily and look after their bodies, you know that you cannot be a couch potato.
Demonstrate to them the kindness, tolerance and acceptance that you want them to exhibit and believe in. Help them to build up their own value system and really think about why those things are important to them.
Be open with your kids
There are so many subjects that you could be talking to your kids about, from safe sex to vaping to social media to bullying to money management, it is hard parenting a child in the twenty first century. They face challenges that kids fifty years ago, even just ten years ago, didn’t have in their lives but that need not mean that they are impossible to get around. The key is to be open with them.
Encourage your child to feel that they can always talk to you about absolutely anything and everything. Ensure that you do not judge them or make them feel bad over their choices and decisions as they are a lot less likely to confide in you next time. You know they will be talking to their friends and seeking advice, and by keeping the lines of communication open, they are also going to run things by an adult who has their best interests at heart.
Set boundaries and hold them accountable
From a young age, your child should have boundaries. There should be house rules and these will shift and change over time as your child grows up. As they move into their teens, they will probably be about curfews and acceptable behaviours. All children need boundaries as they help them to feel safe and loved.
They should then be held accountable for staying within these boundaries and carrying out any assigned chores. They need to understand that they are a valuable member of your family and they have their part to play within that unit.
Help them to manage their own time and priorities so that they can consistently fulfil them and then ensure that they are held accountable if they fail to do so. This is a great life lesson and will help your child to develop their own sense of responsibility.