Dealing with divorce will be one of the biggest challenges you’ll face. Much like losing a loved one, there’ll be grief, stress, denial and many other feelings that can leave you feeling at your lowest.
The healing will come with time, but it’s important to focus on yourself now and begin the moving on process to ensure a happier, more confident you.
Here are 5 steps to help you move on after a divorce.
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1. Finalise the legal stuff and put it to bed
Divorces can be tricky – it’s not often you hear of an amicable one! The process can feel like a long time between deciding to separate and finally being granted the divorce. Familiarise yourself with all of the steps you need to take from the separation process right through to the court proceedings. Once you’ve finalised the legal stuff, you’ll have one less thing to worry about and can finally enjoy a clean break.
2. Take a break
Sometimes, a little physical distance can be a good thing to help you clear your head and help you start to forget. A holiday or short break could work wonders, helping you explore some new places, relax and simply spoil yourself for a bit. Whether you decide to go alone, with a friend or in a group, it will feel much better being away than it will at home!
3. Start filling up your schedule
Keeping busy is important. It can help take your mind off things, introduce you to some new people and stop you feeling lost or lonely now that you’re single. There are a lot of new hobbies you can try to help keep you busy. Meet with friends, join a book club and start saying yes to social invitations – you’ll soon be a social butterfly with a busy, exciting schedule that can help you rediscover some of the things you love.
4. Let yourself have some bad days
Even by keeping busy and taking some time to enjoy yourself, there will still be some bad days. And that’s absolutely fine! There will be times where you’ll want to grieve and hide away, and sometimes they can be cathartic to help you process what you’re feeling. In the morning, things will always seem a bit brighter, and if not, make sure you speak to someone about what you’re feeling – talking helps!
5. Put yourself first
When you’re in a relationship, it’s not always easy to put yourself first. Now that you’re single, you can focus on doing the things you love and giving your full attention to your own health and self-care.. Take steps to enjoy a better sense of wellbeing by getting more active and eating better, and doing the things that will make you feel good about yourself. You’ll be a much more confident person as a result and whether you decide to enter a new relationship or not, nobody can take that away from you.
Divorces are more common than you think, but that doesn’t make them hurt any less. While it may be tough at times, you will make it through and setting a little action plan for yourself can help. Over time, you’ll begin to move on and be ready to enjoy the next chapter of your life.