That precious time when you welcome your baby girl into the world is like nothing else. Whether it be a boy or a girl, you’re still going to build that unbreakable bond with them from the very beginning. But, as they grow a little older, than bond might not break, but it can definitely become a little bit distant. The terrible twos kick in that seem to carry on forever, then before you know it, the hormones are here to smack you both in the face. If your bond is not strong with your baby girl from the beginning, it’s going to be hard to stay attached to them as they grow older. The issue with a mother and daughter is, there can often be a clash of personalities as they age, and this really can drive the two of you apart. Now, this really is the last thing that we would want, but we do know a few ways that you can really bond with your baby girl. Have a read on, and see if you need to try and of these tactics.
The Baby Bond
The first, and possibly one of the most crucial bonds for you to build. Not just for you, but for your partner as well. Again, this does apply to both a girl or a boy, and the bond you build from the beginning will guide you through the years. The best way to build a bond with a newborn is to stay close to them, be as loving as possible, and start with playful interaction after a few months. That first bond is built when the midwife asks you if you would like to put skin to skin. When the baby is first born, and the vital checks have been done with the midwife, the baby can be placed on your chest, so they can feel your warmth, your heartbeat, and that initial bond is born. The same goes with your partner. It’s really common for the men to want that first contact along with the mother. So, once you’ve had a few minutes, allow your partner to do the same. Believe it or not, your baby girl will begin to recognise your heart beats, will recognise your voices from in the womb, and they two will begin to build their own personal bond with you. From then on out, it’s all about gentle soothing when crying, stories before bed, nursery rhymes, and as they begin to get older, initiating play through toys that make sounds. The first few months really are precious when it comes to your newborn, so make the most of every minute, because before you know it their first birthday will fly by, and then their second. All of the sudden you’ll be in the toddler stage, and building the bond through the terrible twos can be rather difficult!
The Toddler Bond
So, if you’re reading this because you’ve just had your first child, or perhaps you’re a year or so in, then you will have heard the rumours about the terrible twos. If you’re unlucky enough, you might have even experience a glimpse of it as your child is approaching the age of two. Now, it varies for people, but often parents will say that the boys are harder to handle than the girls, but then again, you will also hear parents with a girl strongly denying that! The best thing you can do with your little girl is keep them occupied. Play fancy dress, take them out on little trips, get them involved in little sports or activities in toddler classes. The more occupied they are, the easier it’s going to be for you. Of course, you also need to make sure you’re doing the cute side of things, and a lot of that will come from how you dress them, and how you do your hair. Some little girls really love this, some will detest you dressing them. If they love it, have a look at websites such as www.kitandkate.com.au if you want to find some of the cutest items of clothing. The more time you spend around them during their terrible twos and toddler stages, the easier it’s going to be to help them through it. Because what a lot of parents don’t realise is, they’re being the way they are because they’re just so frustrated with it all. They’re not able to do what they want, they’re told what to do and when to do it, and they often get shouted at for just being misunderstood. Try to be as reasonable as possible with your little girl if you want to build a bond. It’s actually so easy for you to push them away if all you’re ever doing is shouting. Keep a calm voice, keep them interested, and keep that love strong if you want to also keep the bond strong.
All of you must know that this is going to be one of the hardest phases for you to deal with. As a teenager, they really do have so many hormones pumping through them that they just can’t control. They will lash out, they will want to distance themselves, and they will be extremely moody from time to time. So, do you want to know how to keep that bond strong? Allow them to have their space. They need time to find themselves during their teenage years. As long as you’re there for them when they need you the most, and as long as you don’t try to invade their personal privacy, then the bond should stay strong. If you want to do something with them, make it fun! Take them shopping, to the cinema, to the theme park etc. But most importantly, ask them what they would like to do. Dragging them along to something is only going to drive them away!
We hope that as you move through the years with your little girl, that you can create the strongest bond that will last a lifetime.